I gave you my professional opinion - you don't get to make choices about highlight density when you need to make museum grade scans/ prints from old negs, where people are paying for a first-class result, not silly complaints about highlight density. In the most diplomatic way possible, if you want to know why workers in the creative industries don't waste effort on forums like this, responses like yours are illustrative of why - and I really, really don't want to pick on you for this, but it unfortunately does illustrate the point.
It's undoubtedly true that the least necessary development for your chosen paper grade (relative to the average light/ contrast conditions you work in) will dramatically improve the tonal quality of a darkroom print (BTDT - grade 2 is possibly not always the best aim point with today's much more flexible range of materials, but that's a story for another time) - and that that qualitative improvement will also translate into a scan - but to claim that you need to reduce negative highlight density for scans more than you do for darkroom prints bespeaks a lack of experience with scanning equipment/ approaches of baseline quality/ competence.
As much as I could expend hours of my time sending you examples of how readily most decent scanners will handle B&W neg density, you can check for yourself with a decent digital camera (essentially anything halfway decent from the late 2000s onwards that outputs a raw file is going to be plenty capable) and a light table. It really is not difficult.