It's still possible to buy mercury thermometers for specialised applications. I bought three in 2021, 0-400C mercury thermometers for laboratory use. But these are only legally sold to laboratories and schools. You can't buy one as a member of the public.
the toxicity of mercury to humans is often exaggerated, though it certainly is toxic. Several early European chemists and of course hat makers famously suffered mercury poisoning. These people used to ingest the mercury orally over many years, indeed Lavoisier was said to be a mercury addict. However, you're not going to do yourself any harm with a thermometer...the biggest risk is breaking the glass and cutting yourself. It's more toxic to aquatic life, so the biggest issue is correct disposal of broken mercury thermometers. Also if you were to be silly and collect the mercury from a few dozen thermometers and then sit it in an open container and let the vapours go into a room....that might cause mercury poisoning.
A good mercury thermometer is far less prone to the liquid strand breaking than the modern low toxicity spirit thermometers, but in almost all practical terms both are as good as each other at measuring temperature. Certainly at film processing temperatures.
Form my POV that just means I have to replace more thermometers each year than when we used mercury because school kids tend to drop them. The glass rarely breaks but the strands in the spirit thermometers are prone to breaking. Sometimes it's possible by heating or freezing to reconnect the strand....but often it's just easier to replace the thermometers.
If OP is able to buy a mercury thermometer, any functional example will be reliable. But unless you can calibrate it you don't know how accurate it is. Alternatively, experimentation can determine what reading on your thermometer corresponds with good C41 development. If you go the spirit thermometer route, buy several at once and calibrate them or at least note what they all read at the "right" temperature. They may well be slightly different. Then if you do find one suffers a broken strand, you've got backups with known calibration.
For electronic thermometers, I recently bought 15 for student use. And I can tell you, even a middle of the range device....all 15 read slightly differently. They have calibration screws but for that you'd need a super accurate 0C and 85C or 100C heat source. It's part of how we teach the kids about accuracy vs repeatability and calibration of instruments.