Are there light meters that that have reflective, incident and spot metering modes all in one device?
If you have a reflective meter (spot meter is a reflective kind of reflective meter) the you also have an incident meter, all you have to carry is a 18% grey card. Take the reding there and you have te incident metering.
The Kodak R-27 card is specially suitable as it is spectrally flat, being technically perfect, and also it includes clear instructions.
Still every meter has its own spectral sensitivity, and depending on the light source one meter may deliver an slightly different reading (daylight vs tungsten vs...)
Incident metering is specially interesting in some situations were you can read the light reaching your subject, but sometimes your subject is far and you cannot read the light reaching it.
IMO the most versatile and accurate way is spot metering, which allows the incident reading by adding a grey card (cut an small piece, perhaps).
Personally I always meter with a SLR/DSLR in spot mode, using the reading on the grey card for slides when illumination is consistent enough to make the incident reading suitable.
With the SLR I inspect the scene with the SLR/DSLR, using the focal (zoom) matching the view (H/V) the LF lens, so when plating the 8x10" I know that I have a composition that's worth enough. Moving the tripod around with the 8x10 and changing lenses it is quite a mess, I find that with the preview made yet I do it faster and better.
For some shots I also use the SLR to take shot with the same film, I develop the 35mm film first so it may help to adjust developement the sheet. Some 8x10 shots take a lot of effort, and having the 35mm prototype it may be useful.
Of course dedicated meters are also great, just pointing that a SLR can be a nice tool for metring LF, it offers spot (etc), incident (with the card), composition preview, and prototype film shot. I use a F5 or a F65 depending on if the shot is near to the road.
Attached the equivalent focals for FX and DX, in the H, V and Diagonal angles. The table can be modifided for the focals one is to carry around.