"Measure with a micrometer, mark with chalk, and cut with an axe."
For metering for my Wista, I've used two different digital cameras plus a 35mm film camera. I've used the Light Meter Pro App, including with a widget to simulate an incident meter. And I've used a calibrated Minolta Flash meter. I've mostly gotten good results with any of them. I've missed on a few shots, but those should be blamed on a loose nut behind the finder. I've also done comparisons across the various options, including using a 10-degree attachment on the Minolta. It's all good.
It's worth remembering that a typical mechanical large format shutter has a tolerance of about 10% between marked and actual shutter speed, EI for film is subjective, film sensitivity changes over time even when "frozen," and developing, printing, and scanning regimens also impose variation on the result.
In short, ISO specs are all well and good, and I'm glad they exist. But at the end of the day, each of us has accept that "variation happens" and find an approach which:
- They feel is sound in theory. If you don't trust reflected readings, from a gray card or otherwise, then using a digital camera ain't right for you.
- They feel gives them good results in practice. In "golden hour," for example, it's possible for the light to change between the time you take the reading and when you dial it.
- That doesn't get in the way. Personally, I almost always have another camera with me when shooting large format, for both backup and as a "fast and light" option, plus my mobile phone.
For me, these days I use the App. If you believe that something else is better, you're right. For you, that is. Relax, don't worry, and keep shooting.