Using different developers or additives to significantly influence grain size and structure is much based on magic and subjective perception alone. If you compare the results side by side, the differences are much smaller than what many people seem to think, or perhaps even completely absent.
There are however several other options to reduce perceived grain size e.g.:
- Use a film with a less prominent grain structure, like e.g. Fuji Acros.
- Use a slower film. I am not particularly fond of grain myself and if the situation allows it, I am often using the Adox CMS 20 at least when shooting on 135 film.
- Switch to a larger film format. If you are now shooting with 135 film, decent medium format cameras can be found for a reasonable price and the consumables are not that much more expensive. You may even save money if you shoot medium format and use a cheap, standard developer compared to 135 film and a specialized low-grain developer. Except for the Adox CMS 20, which needs a specialized developer, I am doing almost all my other films in Rodinal 1:100 stand, which with 2.5ml developer per film does not cost more than just about 2 US cents per roll.