I wouldn't know what other forums you're talking about, since this is the first (and probably the last) forum I've belonged to that has a subscription option. But if it's common here to tell people they're not entitled to an opinion unless they're a subscriber, I still say that's at odds with the stated goal of being welcoming to newcomers.
As to thin skins... I have something of a reputation for being as tenacious as a pit bull when it comes to issues that matter to me, so I'm not sure thin-skinned would be an accurate way to label me. But it's also true that I don't tend to stick around where I've been told I'm not wanted, when no such issues are at stake and it doesn't matter to me one way or the other.
And after all, it goes both ways. When I said that I'm comfortable with the understanding that I don't "belong" in the general forums, that was an acknowledgement of my lack of fit with the culture, as well. My mistake, that prompted my initial post to this thread, was supposing that I might not be the only one who felt that way.
I seem to be doing rather a spectacularly poor job of explaining myself, and I'm going to quit before I get any farther behind.
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Katherine;
First of all, welcome. I pretty much always look for new members in the "Hi, I'm new here" forum thread, and for the most part, welcome them there. The great thing about that thread is that it gives everyone here (and there are well over 21,000) a chance to see the new name, realize it
is a new name, and get a feel for the types of processes, etc that person is interested in so like-minded folks can say "Hey, me too!" and engage you in discussions that are aimed toward your interests. I am pretty sure that if you had taken this route (and believe me, it's not too late) you would have had a better first impression.
When you said this:
"But if it's common here to tell people they're not entitled to an opinion unless they're a subscriber, I still say that's at odds with the stated goal of being welcoming to newcomers." I looked back at Roger's post to see what he'd said, and he never said that only subscribers here are entitled to an opinion. Heck, everyone knows that opinions are like noses... everyone has one.
I will address one more point of your last post...
"But it's also true that I don't tend to stick around where I've been told I'm not wanted, when no such issues are at stake and it doesn't matter to me one way or the other.
And after all, it goes both ways. When I said that I'm comfortable with the understanding that I don't "belong" in the general forums, that was an acknowledgement of my lack of fit with the culture, as well. "
I'm pretty sure no one has said you do not belong here, or that you are not wanted. If this happened in a thread you were participating in, then that's pretty PFC (par for the course) for a huge place like this. After all, you can see just by this thread alone that there are more than a few who have no problem saying things here that range from nice to confrontational. It's just a slice of the vastly diverse group here.
So I hope you will stick around, get to know the people here, and find the niche your website indicates that you will fill nicely. You've got tons to share!