Matt,
It seems like there is no really convenient solution to your problem. Maybe just get used to walking over to the safelight switch when needed.
FWIW, I have four safelights in my darkroom, two Kodak bullets over the dry side on pull-chains, a Kodak D 8x10 safelight bounced off the ceiling in the center (but angled toward the sink side), and a six-foot-long rope of red LEDs filtered through rubylith. These are all powered from a separate switch at one end of the darkroom. The two bullet lights are normally off unless I need then to see to work on the counter (e.g., using the paper trimmer, etc.). When I need less safelight to see a print, for example, when the image is very dim due to extreme enlargement or filtration, I just walk over to the Kodak 8x10 light and switch it off. If that's not enough, then I'll walk to the end of the darkroom and switch them all off. I've never seen the need to use the "safelights off when the enlarger is on" feature of my timers.
If you regularly have problems seeing the projected image from your enlarger, you may simply want to dim your safelights a bit. Yes, being able to read in the darkroom is great, but if the safelight is so bright it makes your printing a pain, then, well...
Best,
Doremus