Disclaimer: I am a victim of Sexual Child abuse. Perhaps the worst kind. Daily Rape by an uncle, a trusted member of the family that led me believe I was loved, that he cared for me and a host of other very sick tendencies that pedophiles do all to well. This also included him taking pictures of me.
This will be a short investment for me. I would only ask that since I will not judge your opinion of this subject you do not judge mine. Now, since I am making an investment I simply ask you, if you choose to write a post on this thread, to do the same, make an investment. The investment will be simple, after reading my opinion of this matter simply answer the question at the end to the best of your ability. Fair? If you cannot answer the question, no matter the answer, I will hold no respect for your opinion nor your position. And frankly, I feel you have no business posting in this Thread.
Thank you.
I happen to think I have a very healthy view regarding both art and sex. I am in the camp for equal rights for gay marriage, benefits and every right that I enjoy in this country and in this world. I also believe strongly, that the government has no business in our bedrooms and wish they would spend more time in the board-rooms then concerning themselves with what I’m doing in my own home.
I’m a straight man, 48 years old and a single father. I’ve have had many healthy relationships with both straight and bisexual women on a “partner” level as well as healthy friendships with both gay men and women. Please note that the key word here is “Healthy”
I trusted my uncle. I placed my trust, of course not knowing I was doing so at the age of 6 years old, (until 10) into him because that’s what children do. A child mind is not yet matured yet and will not be for many years. This, I feel, is why the role of parent, guardian, care giver and even the community is such an important one.
I have had the great pleasure of raising my brother, 10 years my junior, during his growing up from age 13 to 22 whereas he lived with me and then both my ex-wife (Jared’s Mom and a great lady) and I. I have raised my son now for 12 years, mostly on my own.
When I see a child, I see a wonderful being that I cannot put into words. I’ve tried during this writing but all I was coming up with was corny phases that were not true to how I feel or what I feel. It cannot be put into words, I see innocence for sure and I see trust when looking back but most of all I have an overwhelming sense responsibility. No doubt due to my uncle. But also largely because I am a decent human being.
What I DO NOT see is art. I do NOT see nor do I think, my gosh, that is a beautiful form, look at the way the light hits her/him. I do not think that way at all and frankly I cannot understand why any adult would.
Ladies and Gents, Children do not have a developed mind, they cannot make informed decisions like we adults can (ok, most of us) they unwittingly trust us to do that for them. Our humanity, community and society trusts us to do that for them. I trust you to look out for my child when he is out of my sight at any time. I give you that trust. Please realize how delicate and precious this is. I trust my community because my son’s mind is not completely developed and while I am, every single day trying to firm up a good base for him to arm himself with the tools that will help him made good decisions in his life, now and as an adult, that little mind is not yet developed and I trust you to help me when I am out of eyeshot or earshot.
I enjoy looking at naked women. Yup, I really, really dig it. I like looking at them in person, on a adult beach (NJ’s clothing optional beach) and in a movie but ADULT women. Adult women (or men if it pleases you) that can have matured minds and can make responsible decisions. I do get a little creeped out if the model is young, my personal preference is older. NOT for sex, I can enjoy looking at the adult opposite sex for the art of the body, for the lighting on curves and/or hair, I completely understand the difference between art and sex.
We are entrusted with these little wonderful little beings. I do not see how any parent can allow anyone to take pictures of a nude child, their child or knowledge of any other child.
I told you I would give you a little investment here. Would you please do the same? If not, and you can’t answer, I’m sorry, you have no right positing on this topic. If you can answer, no matter what the answer is, I may not agree with it but I will respect it.
Question:
Would you allow, if approached, Jock Sturges to photograph your child Nude? Photograph and then publish it in a art book or the web?
In closing, I would invite Mr. Sturges to a Adult, intelligent conversation and debate with me in any public forum. And yes, it would be recorded, I mean why not, if he can record our children in the name of art, I could record the debate of same if it is solely for the purpose of helping us understand art.