I've had good luck loading film at night in an upstairs bathroom, the door is "weatherstripped" and a rolled up towel against the sill crack stops a potential leak. I put the 35mm film, an old fashioned bottle opener to remove the cassette end, a pair of small scissors to trim off the film tongue, the Paterson reel or reels,the spindle, the tank, and the tank lid, of course. I put all these into a darkroom tray suitable for 11x14 paper. This is to prevent - I hope! - dropping something onto the floor! It is truly amazing how BIG a bathroom floor is in total darkness! So far this regimen has worked well.... BTW, long experience suggests that tiny slivers of light visible after 10 minutes or so seem to have no effect on the film, ASA 400 or below, nevertheless I do my best to avoid such.
After the proper wash I treat the film to Photoflo, attach the free end to a line stretched across the bathtub, and gently pull the film from the reel, without "opening" the reel. I have an understanding and supportive spouse, she has no problem with running the reels through the dishwasher.
Note! Tell other residents of your house to stay away while you're loading film!