Hi!
As regards the reflections, it is perfectly normal that you see a coloured edge if you hold the filter with the dichroic side towards the reflected object, and not if you hold it with the "plain glass" side towards it: it is the very principle of a dichroic filter to reflect all the wavelengths it doesn't let pass, so the treated side of, let's say the yellow filter will give a blue reflection (complementary of yellow), while the reflection coming from the other side downstreams will be yellow because it is only reflecting the wavelenghts that the treatment lets pass. This effect is shown on all your images. In the applications that use semi-transparent reflection filters, the other side of the filter is coated to prevent these reflections from happening - but of course your filters are made to be used in transmission, not reflection, so the other side does not need an anti-reflection treatment. In summary, you don't need to worry about it, it is perfectly normal.
As regards your images of reflected light, I can only say that any difference would be caused by this phenomenon. But then I don't see any difference, which makes perfect sense since an untreated glass surface reflects only a few percents of the incoming light whereas the dichroic side reflects 100% of all the wavelenghts that it doesn't let pass: that's a huge difference, so the effect on the colour is minimal. I can't tell the colour of the reflection on the ND filter from your photos, but it is perfectly normal for a filter to yield coloured reflections, if it has received any kind of treatment, and it has no influence on the colour of the transmitted light - the front lens of your camera, or its multicoated protective filter, are other examples.
As regards enlarging light meters, a common cheap model is the Ilford EM10. You can probably find it for a couple of dozens of euros. For more sophisticated use, determining the paper contrast and so on, you could look at RH designs Zonemaster. I bought mine used for 75 € or so, but the usual price is higher than that, let alone the price of a new one.