Why I did NOt attend?
I had planned to been there. It would have taken calling in some past favors to get people to replace me in some of my commitments, bending both my, and my wife's schedule (I definitely would want her with me), and some degree of additional planning. Most of that had been done ... when my dedication to APUG was severely impacted by a few (actually more than a few) *vicious insults*.
I was told to "get over it" -- and chided for "being a baby". Maybe so, but I do NOT appreciate being told to "stand still during excoriation". The presence of one member there, in particular, would cause me to decline an invitation to a local "cocktail party", under any circumstances. That influenced my determination to travel 500 or so miles to Toronto (I've done that a number of times before - so travel itself was no problem there) - to attend THAT "cocktail party".
Feel free to judge me negatively for that attitude. That is you choice so to do. My choice was to avoid a confrontation ... and not attend.
You DID ask for the truth, didn't you?