When you grow up with the "old Tri-X" you've had plenty of grain. Modern film is so radically different than what was made pre-80's, there's no comparison. I have given up trying to use a grain focuser strictly on "grain" when printing. I don't scan, if I did I would probably shoot color negative film. For me the utility of film is for
PRINTING . If all I did was inkjet, and computer display, I probably would use digital exclusively. (Oh except for color slides

) You can add grain with software. I'm not saying to stop buying film, it's so much fun.
One other thing about film that's amazing. Right now you can find used film cameras and lenses for almost nothing. No barrier to starting to get amazing results.
I hope that I can keep going in my darkroom for a long time. I love it all.
Best Regards Mike