Once I got the exposure nailed I can deal with color casts (in the worst case in a hybrid work flow
This is the rub, you are dealing with three exposures not one; one for the Red layer, one for Green, one for Blue. Any layer that isn't exposed well will also have little or no detail. This isn't just a color cast issue it's a detail issue. If one layer is overexposed, one is normal, and one is underexposed, you only really have one layer that has decent detail and the color is wacky. Hybrid or Analog makes no difference here.
, my scanner does much much better with slides than negs). Right now I look at pics with bright white mountains in front of white sky and dim star trails on light grey sky.
I think what you are seeing here is the lack of contrast that existed in the original scene. The SBR is very low and expansion development (pushing) would probably address some of that issue.
I was not aware that scene contrast would be narrow, in my experience I had to battle excessive contrast as soon as artificial lighting exists in small parts of the view. Moon light should yield similar contrast levels to sun light.
I'm sure you know this but I'm going to state the obvious here, the moon is moving.
If you are after detail in the moon your exposure will need to be quite short and yes close to daylight settings. In that situation the rest of the scene's exposure just falls wherever it falls, the moon is the subject that matters. The only other choices in a single exposure are a- using a tracking mount but then the land/cityscape would blur if included or b- picking a day and time where the landscape and the moon are at similar EV's.
When the moon is included but detail isn't important, then the moon, like the stars, can be treated as point sources and a trail can be expected.
Similar thought on artificial light sources, just no trail. They can be treated as point sources too.
If you take the point sources out of the exposure calculation for a given shot, a night scene's subject brightness range can be very, very narrow.
I was at a workshop a week ago and we were all shooting a landscape scene late afternoon and over cast, the total SBR was about 3 stops when we arrived even shooting toward the horizon and measured by a variety of spot meters. That dropped to as little as 1 stop SBR before we left and it wasn't even dark yet.
Excluding point sources a night landscape may have an SBR well under 0.5. This is where I think your white mountain gray sky issue is rooted.