I've just gotten back into this recently myself after having done it many years ago with help. Doing it on your own is different then doing so with instructors or friends.
The 50mm f/2.8 El-Nikkor is what I use, a very nice lens for 35mm. It is sharpest at f/8 but still pretty sharp at f/5.6 but the edges are not so sharp at f/2.8. Most of the time I do prints at f/8, occasionally f/5.6 with a dark filter at 11x14" size which is a big enlargement.
Paper developers are usually different than film though there are some that will do sheet film and paper. I've mostly been using MultiGrade developer mostly as well though I've been burning through enough of it that I'm trying Bromophen now (I wouldn't use enough of the 5 litre jug of 1+9 MG in 6 months but I could use up 5L of Bromophen 1+3 in 4 months). I use Ilfostop stop bath and Ilford Rapid Fixer too for both film and paper but as mentioned above, I keep separate working solutions for each use.
I've been using Ilford MGIV MultiGrade (variable contrast) paper since it is the easiest to get here. I've been using RC and fiber in regular tone and and WarmTone. The WarmTone paper is slower (needs much longer exposures) but is as it says, nice warm brown tones instead of black and white. Fiber is more challenging to get it to dry flat and takes longer to develop, fix and wash but the fiber is really nice for some pictures so don't be afraid to try it. You can get 10, 25, 50, 100 and larger packs so you can get some 10 packs just to try stuff out at first. I've been using glossy, pearl and satin RC and glossy and matt fiber finishes, all yield slightly different results so depending on the effect you want, all are good at one time or another.
Multigrade filters affect the contrast, low numbers for low contrast, high numbers for high contrast. The darker ones need longer exposures too, the paper fact sheets show the effective sensitivity depending on the filter and I have a little wheel which you spin if you change filters so you can adjust the time for the same effective exposure.
A drying rack is also useful, I have an old Eagle one though I think I need some more. So is an exposure timing mask so you can make a test image without actually uncovering the paper, mine is an old one by Kodak.
A washer is also helpful, I have a Kodak siphon print washer that attaches from the tap to another tray so it changes the water automatically.
It's fun! I hope you can get it shipped soon.