OK guys - I've tried a few things.
Paul VanAudenhove PM'd me suggesting I use my 50mm lens to look at the negative instead of a maginifying glass! Great idea - I'd not thought of that, so I put the neg on my lightbox and peeped through my lens wide open. It doesn't look out of focus to me, but then I don't have the best eye sight.
Then I tried putting a neg in the carrier, turning on my enlarger and quickly focusing using my grain finder. Got it in focus then left it for 5 minutes powered on. 5 minutes later, no grain was visible! So that obviously suggests the neg popping issue may well have crept in here, especially seeing as I made several prints without ever moving the negative out, so it probably got fairly warm.
Then, perhaps most signficantly, I noticed my enlarger has a "Protractor" like dial just behind the lens to show a left or right tilt of the lens head (sorry, I don't know the technical term). Instead of being at 0, it was at about 3 degrees to the right. This suggests to me that the lens plane itself was at a very slight (3 degree) angle to the base board, which for larger 10x8" prints is perhaps quite a bit...more so than a small 6x4. So I've now corrected that too and fastended into place.
So now it's flat on the table, the lens head is properly aligned, and I have learnt about doing small 6 second bursts of exposure instead of long 30 second single blasts, I will have another go when I get chance and I will let you know.
I've also enquired at
secondhanddarkroom.co.uk about buying a replacement negative carrier, because mine is rubbish and falling to bits, which cannot be helping.
Thanks again all for the help
Tlitody...comments like
"For the third time..." are not especially helpful. Whilst I appreciate it may already have been suggested, it is fair for a relative beginner to printing to perhaps suspect (and I didn't say it WAS the cause) that a misbalanced enlarger on the desk might not be conducive to successfull printing.