For color neg you want what is known as "Status M" (reversal films need Status A) - this is a specific set of spectral responses for red, green, and blue. Densitometers that have these almost always have a separate "visual" channel that approximates our visual sensitivity - this is best for B&W film. But in truth, any one of the color channels will give nearly identical readings for normal b&w.
I've used a lot, but quite a while back. In the US, the Macbeth machines were the cream of the crop, but I think I'd avoid the oldest ones, with nixie tube or dial displays. The X-rite 810s were great in the minilab days - they read all three colors at once, no rotating the filter turret like on Macbeths. Plus, the 810 can read "reflection densities," on paper. Be aware that the lamp in the head of 810s is special, and I think they are very expensive nowadays, so it may not be worth buying one with a blown bulb (check lamp pricing first).
Regarding calibration, you normally set "zero" with no film in place, then there is a "slope" control to dial in the higher readings. So all you really "need" is a moderately high calibration patch. As a fallback, you could just use a piece of b&w film with a fairly dense patch, and ask someone in a trusted lab to read RBG values for you. (Xrite 810 lets you enter the specific calibration values you want.) Or as a very crude check, read a neutral density filter (the thickness of the filter will mess up the light-handling geometry in the head).
There are a number of automated "strip readers" made to help automate control strip readings, but you need to be plugged into a machine with software to read it - I don't know what would work for a standalone application.
Ps, absolutely correct calibration is not too important for control strip readings, because of the way it's done. If you have a test strip density of, say, 1.50, you're not concerned with whether that value is absolutely correct - you're concerned about the difference in readings between the "reference strip" vs the one you process.
Happy hunting, hope you find a good one.