In those few cases of that happening it would appear that C41 is the way to go with Kodak IR colour
Not really; cross-processed E6 film in C41 developer will give a very high gamma. The negatives will be no fun at all to print.
Best way to get prints from an E6 film is process as E6, scan, print digitally. If desired, you can get digital prints made onto RA4 paper; that's what it's made for after all.
I sometimes wonder how secondhand enlargers still seem to command such high prices
Some do, some don't. It's especially medium format and larger, and it depends a lot on where you are and who you know. Moreover, keep in mind that a good 95% of the enlargers in existence up to around 2002 or so have since been scrapped, so what's left is a tiny fraction of what was around. If you then see a small uptick in demand, prices soar.
What you see now is that the old generation still hanging on to the equipment they got, in part cheap or for free when it was dumped en masse, while a tiny minority of the younger generation warms up to darkroom printing. Predictably, in a few years the older generation will start releasing their equipment as they become too old or simply to dead to use it. Some of that stuff will end up on the market and it may give the younger generation a little breathing room as they can take over. Much of it will again be dumped/scrapped by heirs who don't know what to do with it and who mostly can't be bothered to sell it off; carting it to the scrapyard is so much easier & quicker.
as everybody or almost everybody is using what we call the hybrid process
The vast majority of the present generation shooting film never sets foot in a darkroom or touches a darkroom print made from their own film. So "almost everybody" is indeed correct.
The other day I tried to warm some people up to a Colenta RA4 processor in perfectly functioning condition; the owner was about to sell it for a pittance and I'm pretty sure that if someone genuinely interested in it would have shown up, he might have given it away for free. In reality, nobody actually did show up - there were some nibbles, but the lady couldn't figure out whether she had a room with the required plumbing or not. That's the analog revival for you - "I don't know if I want this". The Colenta ended up being scrapped.