As I understand it, you want the fogging agent to fully fog the film -- any adjustments are made in the first developer; develop more there, and you'll lighten the final image because the silver developed in the first dev is removed before the reversal and second dev. Essentially, all the processes in B&W reversal after the first dev are carried to completion.
So, if your transparencies are too dark (which I infer from your statement that the fogging agent is too strong) you either need to first develop more, expose more, or put more halide solvent in your first developer (to clear highlights).