I agree with your first 3 points and am always amazed at people who just think their work will sell enough right away to make a living at it. But on point 4 I disagree. While there are galleries that will not talk to anyone, she has little to lose by contacting galleries for their advice. Some of the galleries in the larger cities might be less willing but when i took out my personal work I had little problem having NYC galleries look at my work and some even offered me representation. So you never know.....
But back specifically to the original poster, if she's in economic hard times, she needs to get a job with health benefits and not spend time or money chasing a photographic dream.
Do you live in NY or did you travel there to show your work. I suspect its easier for those who live there and can form connections with the right people. I lived in Santa Fe for a few years and out there the galleries have ZERO interest in anyone who isn't already nationally famous. I've had good luck getting into galleries in the midwest, but unfortunately very little sells from them. I sell more each year from my website than I did in 15 years combine of being represented by galleries and showing in exhibits.


