Chris, I am sorry to here this news. I lost my father just three weeks ago and I know how traumatic this can be. Please take care of yourself. You and your family are in my prayers.
Chris, I've been in your shoes, so I have a sense of what you're going through. I hope you have the support of the same sorts of people who got me through my immediate grief.
Don't be afraid or ashamed to cry; it is a critical part of the process. Remember the good times and do talk to her. I don't know why, but it really does help. Fifteen years later and I still talk to my wife.