Do you hide your cameras from your wife?

[Andrew K]

I've got over 1000...she never notices when I add another one

 

[gliderbee]

Yes, and the last word is always mine: "Yes, Darling..."

Ok, problem solved. I got a Rolleiflex instead. Now I can put it among the other six and my wife will surelly not notice (she is smart but not that smart).

Still not a Hassel owner but at least for some time my GAS is... dammit!! I really want a Hasselblad...

You should start with a used Kiev-88 ot two. From there on, you can start hiding. Il y a la securite dans les nombres.

Stefan

Verstuurd van mijn GT-P7510 met Tapatalk

 

[sly]

I traded my wife in. I did not get much for her, but the new models are terrific. Younger, lower mileage, lower maintenance, lighter, more enjoyable ... best decision I every made. I never had a problem since for spending money on cameras, lenses ... Life is good and I am happy.

Sirius, it is seriously time for you to let go of your bitterness to your ex. You have been bitching about her for years on a PHOTOGRAPHY forum, and crowing about your trophy girl.
I was a very bitter and angry woman for a while. One of the ways my current (14 years) sweetheart impressed me was by not dissing his ex. His example helped me let go of my anger. He won out over other contenders because he was a grown up.

I also want to thank the guys who have objected to the mysogynistic remarks this thread has flushed out. I've been biting my tongue ever since it started.

 

[Steve Smith]

I've got over 1000...

You have the start of a good collection there. Keep going!


Steve.

 

[Diapositivo]

I consider your misogynistic remarks stupid, narrow minded and offensive, as I'm sure many of my fellow members of this forum will, I like admire and respect most women, many of whom I have had lifetime friendships with

Which of my remarks do you consider stupid, misogynistic, narrow minded or offensive? I offered you some facts and some observations (regarding pensions, military service, custody of children, economic consequences of divorce etc) and you only put forward your prejudices.

Besides I certainly have several life-long woman friends and I respect most of woman in general as well, you seem not to be able to understand what I write, which is that notwithstanding the widespread rhetoric about woman being "victims" in our society, they actually enjoy unjustified privileges, and things are getting worse by the day.

Hence my remarks on "men liberation front" or generally being conscious about the injustice.

 

[Thomas Bertilsson]

I think it has to do with how open we are to our spouses, and also about how responsible we are with other things.

If you have an otherwise good relationship, can talk openly about anything, the bills are getting paid, and so on, then there is no reason to hide anything. My current partner and I have an agreement where we have completely separate finances. Every month we must pay exactly 50% of all shared bills and utilities, and if we can't make it it will be painfully noticeable. But if I took delivery of a lot of film that same month, or packages arrived at the door step, then my excuse for not being able to pay my share of the bills isn't credible. That's almost a breach of trust, and is very bad for a relationship.
On the other hand, if I take care of my 50% effortlessly and pay my share every month without any hiccups, then any package arriving is a lot less significant, and she will ask me out of curiosity what it is, and when I tell her and show her what they are, she usually becomes interested in what it is.

So, I am convinced that if there are other things to hide, a big display of cameras worth lots of money becomes a bit of an insult to our partners, but if the relationship is open in discussion, honest, and with all necessities taken care of, then it's something we should encourage in one another. It's all about empathy. If finances are not an issue and you still feel like you need to hide your cameras, something else is broken in the realm of respect and wishing each other happy lives.

 

[BrianShaw]

Cameras, or wives?

I've got over 1000...she never notices when I add another one

 

[Old-N-Feeble]

Sirius, it is seriously time for you to let go of your bitterness to your ex. You have been bitching about her for years on a PHOTOGRAPHY forum, and crowing about your trophy girl.
I was a very bitter and angry woman for a while. One of the ways my current (14 years) sweetheart impressed me was by not dissing his ex. His example helped me let go of my anger. He won out over other contenders because he was a grown up.

I also want to thank the guys who have objected to the my sogynistic remarks this thread has flushed out. I've been biting my tongue ever since it started.

Maybe Sirius has good reason to be bitter.

My ex was a selfish crazy angry mean violent bitchy hateful controlling nagging ice-cold spiteful liar to everyone. I and our son just happen to be near her more than anyone else. In our entire fifteen year marriage she constantly demanded apologies from me every single day from God knows what little things... it was a control issue. She didn't apologize to me but one time in the entire nineteen years I knew her and that was after we divorced. She was the same with our small child who lived with me after the divorce. Whoever controls the universe had pity on me and our young son and gave me the perfect excuse to divorce her. Still bitter after fifteen years of freedom? Yes. Happy to be rid of her? Yes... Oh good God YESSS!! Now that I'm alone I have the freedom to do whatever I can and whenever I like. I'm a boring man with very simple tastes and decent moral character. However, I'm not the quiet meek sort I was when I was first married. That's the one thing my ex gave me... plenty of pinned-up anger to not put up with any BS from anyone. Am I lonely? Sometimes, yes. Would I rather be in an abusive relationship? No. So... I can be bitter if I so choose and so can Sirius.

>>> OP: If your wife is the opposite of who mine then you'd better care for and respect her. Don't betray her trust because it will never be fully regained. Don't lie, cheat, be selfish or unkind. And thank God every day for her being with you. Think before you act. Resist impulsive behavior. What good is a shiny Hassy if you have to sell it to pay the electric bill or repair the car? Your family needs spare cash up-front in case of a financial dry spell or emergency. That's just the way it is. We can control our own actions and only influence others' actions. We can't control others' actions. If your family can truly afford, without a single doubt, for you to buy that Hassy then discuss if with your wife. If your family can't, without a single doubt, afford for you to buy the Hassy then the answer is obvious. If you choose to lie about it then maybe you should be thinking about your relationship and reevaluating who you are, who she is, and who you want your child to become. We all learn from our parents' actions.

 

[Sirius Glass]

Sirius, it is seriously time for you to let go of your bitterness to your ex. You have been bitching about her for years on a PHOTOGRAPHY forum, and crowing about your trophy girl.
I was a very bitter and angry woman for a while. One of the ways my current (14 years) sweetheart impressed me was by not dissing his ex. His example helped me let go of my anger. He won out over other contenders because he was a grown up.

I also want to thank the guys who have objected to the mysogynistic remarks this thread has flushed out. I've been biting my tongue ever since it started.

Now, in retrospect, even my ex agrees that I am better off. In fact the ex really likes my girlfriend and often tells our daughters how happy she is that I found her.

By the way, I find it fascinating that the is no word in Engish for the counter point of "mysogynistic" even though such attitudes and remarks exist.




An aside, have you ever heard of Henny "Take my wife—please." Youngman http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henny_Youngman or "Lonesome George" Goble http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Gobel who talked about "Spooky Old Alice"?


Note that this thread does have a light joking tone to it. Let's keep it that way. And no men aren't always wrong.

 

[sly]

Maybe Sirius has good reason to be bitter.

I'm sure he does, as do you. I had ample reason to froth at the mouth about my ex. I'm not going to go into them. I'll just say I returned to my passion for photography after the break-up of my dysfunctional relationship. One of the many reasons it was a very good thing for me.

Unlike Sirius, you don't bring it up your ex every time there is a thread here in which folks mention their relationship difficulties.

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past." Gina Berriault

 

[BrianShaw]

By the way, I find it fascinating that the is no word in Engish for the counter point of "mysogynistic" even though such attitudes and remarks exist.

Facinating... I hadn't thought about that one, but you are correct!

How about "reverse mysogeny"? I hate that just as much as I hate the term "reverse discrimination". To me it is all "discrimination" whether white against 'people of color', or 'people of color' against white, or white against white, or 'poeple of colr against people of color, or men against women, or women against men, or Americans against Brits...

 

[Dinesh]

By the way, I find it fascinating that the is no word in Engish for the counter point of "mysogynistic" even though such attitudes and remarks exist.

Misandrist

 

[Sirius Glass]

Misandrist

 

[Thomas Bertilsson]

Reminds me of 'Girl with the Dragon Tattoo'. Directly translated from Swedish the title of the book/movie is 'Men Who Hate Women'.

 

[Ming Rider]

My ex was a selfish crazy angry mean violent bitchy hateful controlling nagging ice-cold spiteful liar to everyone. I and our son just happen to be near her more than anyone else. In our entire fifteen year marriage she constantly demanded apologies from me every single day from God knows what little things... it was a control issue. She didn't apologize to me but one time in the entire nineteen years I knew her and that was after we divorced. She was the same with our small child who lived with me after the divorce. Whoever controls the universe had pity on me and our young son and gave me the perfect excuse to divorce her. Still bitter after fifteen years of freedom? Yes. Happy to be rid of her? Yes... Oh good God YESSS!! Now that I'm alone I have the freedom to do whatever I can and whenever I like. I'm a boring man with very simple tastes and decent moral character. However, I'm not the quiet meek sort I was when I was first married. That's the one thing my ex gave me... plenty of pinned-up anger to not put up with any BS from anyone. Am I lonely? Sometimes, yes. Would I rather be in an abusive relationship? No. So... I can be bitter if I so choose and so can Sirius.

I thought for one second you were talking about my ex.

Things got so bad she would only let me out the house of an evening on a Monday and Friday (yes really). This changed after a while to a Tuesday and a Thursday because she didn't realise everyone else went out on a Friday to unwind etc . . .

My cat (who I had before we met) was forced to live outside, even in winter.

I was the only earner (well paid), yet was given pocket money and no access to the bank account.

The final straw was being woken at 6:30am on a Sunday morning, having worked 7 day weeks for at least 2 months. I'll never forget the psychotic look in her eyes and I'll never forget the bucket of icy cold water hurled (with bucket) in my direction. My crime? I had put the frying pan in the top basket of the dishwasher instead of the bottom.

The divorce was 12 years ago and whilst I'm over it, the mental scars never fully dissapear.

Last I heard, she'd met a bloke called Keith. Apologies to any Keiths out there.

 

[Sirius Glass]

I thought for one second you were talking about my ex.

Things got so bad she would only let me out the house of an evening on a Monday and Friday (yes really). This changed after a while to a Tuesday and a Thursday because she didn't realise everyone else went out on a Friday to unwind etc . . .

My cat (who I had before we met) was forced to live outside, even in winter.

I was the only earner (well paid), yet was given pocket money and no access to the bank account.

The final straw was being woken at 6:30am on a Sunday morning, having worked 7 day weeks for at least 2 months. I'll never forget the psychotic look in her eyes and I'll never forget the bucket of icy cold water hurled (with bucket) in my direction. My crime? I had put the frying pan in the top basket of the dishwasher instead of the bottom.

The divorce was 12 years ago and whilst I'm over it, the mental scars never fully dissapear.

Last I heard, she'd met a bloke called Keith. Apologies to any Keiths out there.

First of all, welcome to APUG.

Now about your post. Boy, you had it easy! [ROTFLMAO!]

 

[Hatchetman]

The final straw was being woken at 6:30am on a Sunday morning, having worked 7 day weeks for at least 2 months. I'll never forget the psychotic look in her eyes and I'll never forget the bucket of icy cold water hurled (with bucket) in my direction. My crime? I had put the frying pan in the top basket of the dishwasher instead of the bottom.

Well, be honest, how many times did she tell you that the frying pan goes on the bottom?

 

[BrianShaw]

You should have thrown it back... everyone knows that frying pans shouldn't be washed in an automatic dishwasher!

 

[Ming Rider]

Well, be honest, how many times did she tell you that the frying pan goes on the bottom?

Sorry Guys & Gals. Forgetting my manners there. Thanks for the welcome. I love a forum with a good 'off topic' section. Oh, and some film stuff as well.

My ex loved giving me guidelines. She probably 'pounded' me with the frying pan rule slightly less than the 'off to bed with no supper' clause.

To be fair to the crazy bitch, sorry lady, she had been an army wife for 16 years beforehand and only knew army life. Her husband left her for another women when he had to start living with her full time. Oh and she had a thyroid problem. Steer clear of women with thyroid problems who choose not to medicate.

 

[Katie]

Good grief, where do you men find these crazy women? Must be a Northern thing. Might I suggest a trip to the deep South to meet your next significant other? I have never been around women who would behave and treat their husband/boyfriend in such ways. That is awful! I'm sure there are deep phsychological issues surrounding their behavior, but we (women in the South) tend to handle things in a different manner. Don't get me wrong; when treated incorrectly, we will set your car on fire; but give us respect and love and you've never been treated so well in all your life! Southern boys so love their mamas ... and women down here tend to base husband skills on how well a man treats his Mother.

 

[Ming Rider]

Good grief, where do you men find these crazy women? Must be a Northern thing. Might I suggest a trip to the deep South to meet your next significant other? I have never been around women who would behave and treat their husband/boyfriend in such ways. That is awful! I'm sure there are deep phsychological issues surrounding their behavior, but we (women in the South) tend to handle things in a different manner. Don't get me wrong; when treated incorrectly, we will set your car on fire; but give us respect and love and you've never been treated so well in all your life! Southern boys so love their mamas ... and women down here tend to base husband skills on how well a man treats his Mother.

Ooh, sounds like a dream come true. A women that 'only' sets light to your car when she's mad. I thought they only existed in fairy tales. Fancy dinner?

 

[Old-N-Feeble]

So, precisely how badly do you want that Hassy? If your family can't 'truly afford' the expenditure then do you want it so much that you're willing to cause your family hardships? Are you willing to possibly damage your relationship with your wife, perhaps forever? It's not a difficult question but the answer can be a bit of a struggle for many of us because we're 'polluting the primary issues' with secondary and tertiary thoughts. Forget those other 'ideals' and think... "Can my family (not me) afford to spend that money right now"? Boil it down to that one and only absolutely valid question and answer it yourself. Then talk about it with your wife if you truly believe it's a good time to spend the cash.

 

[Old-N-Feeble]

Good grief, where do you men find these crazy women? Must be a Northern thing. Might I suggest a trip to the deep South to meet your next significant other? I have never been around women who would behave and treat their husband/boyfriend in such ways. That is awful! I'm sure there are deep phsychological issues surrounding their behavior, but we (women in the South) tend to handle things in a different manner. Don't get me wrong; when treated incorrectly, we will set your car on fire; but give us respect and love and you've never been treated so well in all your life! Southern boys so love their mamas ... and women down here tend to base husband skills on how well a man treats his Mother.

No ma'am... right here in Texas. All the nice pleasant Southern Bells are already spoken for.

 

[E. von Hoegh]

Well, be honest, how many times did she tell you that the frying pan goes on the bottom?

You're both wrong. Frying pans do not go in dishwashers.

 

[Ming Rider]

You should have thrown it back... everyone knows that frying pans shouldn't be washed in an automatic dishwasher!

So that's where we went wrong? Maybe there's still hope? No, wait a minute, I think I'm gonna vomit.