To OP. Please try the following:
Take your grey card and orient it so it faces directly at the primary light source(not the camera). Then take your incident meter and using the flat disc (NOT Dome), put it infront of grey card and point it directly at the primary source(not the camera) and take a reading.
Now take your spot meter and with the grey card still facing directly at the primary light source, meter the grey card with the spot meter lens axis perpendicular to the grey card. i.e. straight in front of it without casting a shadow on it.
Now tell us how the readings differ.
And anyone else with a spot and incident meter can try the same and report back too and then maybe we can get a definitive answer about what's going on.
And yes I know everyone says point incident meter at camera but for this test please point incident meter with flat disc(not dome) at the primary light source.
In diffuse light (window light, indoors)
- a Minolta Autometer Vf with flat disk reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/2.8 +0.1
- a Minolta Spotmeter F reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/2.8 +0.4
...a difference of 0.3EV
In diffuse light outdoors with 18% grey target oriented at a slight angle upward (not parallel to the wall nor ground)
- a Minolta Autometer Vf with flat disk reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/16 +0.7
- a Minolta Spotmeter F reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/22 +0.1
...a difference of 0.4EV
which is about what I expect, as the meters were calibrated so that they return the same result when the reflected light meter targets about 12.5%, not 18% target.
In diffuse light outdoors, but with 18% target laid on the ground pointing upward to the sky...
- a Minolta Autometer Vf with flat disk reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/32 +0.1
- a Minolta Spotmeter F reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/32 +0.5
...a difference of 0.4EV
Lastly,
In diffuse light (CFL in 12" white reflective glass overhead about 30 degree angle from metering target)
- a Minolta Autometer Vf with hemisphere reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/4 +0.4
- a Minolta Autometer Vf with flat disk reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/4 +0.6
- a Minolta Spotmeter F reads ISO 400, 1/8 f/4 +0.6
...the hemisphere differs from the flat disk, but the reflected light spot matches the flat disk. So the reflected differs from the incident with hemisphere by 0.2EV and also from the flat disk reading by the same amount under the test condition.
So what have we learned?.."
somewhere around 0.3EV" is the norm for incident to differ from reflected. But "
somewhere around 0.3EV" is also the difference between hemisphere and flat disk. Differences vary, and there is no such thing as a 'standard difference'