I've never seen a photograph where I thought the photographers intent was for men to oogle the model.
As has been said, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
In other words, when it comes to viewing and appreciating photographs,
it doesn't matter what the photographer's intentions are!!! The finished product speaks much louder than the intentions.
Part of being an artist is understanding your audience, and imagining your own work from other points of view.
It's simply biology that men are easily aroused by visual things. (If they act or comment on their arousal is a different phenomenon).
So if you're innocently shooting beautiful nudes to convey grace, and it would never occur to you that it is a sexual image,
know that it will unavoidably be that way for much of your audience. They may appreciate the grace as well and composition as well, but that's a second order appreciation -- biological reflexes come first. If you shoot a full frontal of a nude woman under a waterfall, no one is looking first at the mist from the waterfall.
Point is, art is about execution and not intentions. So if you're not getting the responses you want, then you're not creating the images you think you are.