FGAS "fat girl angle shot" was a popular meme in the early days of the internet. The idea was that a chubby girl trying to hide her weight would use a wide angle lens (usually around 28mm equivalent) and a close, high angle. This would both increase the eye size in relation to the rest of the face, making them look younger, and reduce the size of anything far from the camera.
A person of healthy weight photographed at a normal angle and distance on the other hand, usually looks best in the 85-135mm range.
So you can both be right.