Yeah, the process of importing can be frustrating sometimes. Most carriers I've used so far have by now streamlined the process so that the customer receives an email with the amount to be paid and several payment options. After payment, the parcel is expedited and usually received within a few days. I imagine that perhaps in Sweden the situation is currently similar.
Things get nasty when packages that aren't subject to VAT are still treated that way. I've received prints in print exchanges from abroad that were shipped as a parcel, and because of this, taxes were levied on them based on an unrealistically high estimate of the value of the contents. It's technically possible to get a refund, but the appeal process is slow and involves sending an actual letter and then lengthy email correspondence with the postal service. Ultimately, a full refund doesn't even happen because initial handling charges are not refunded - just the tax paid.
Anyway, in case you need my help ordering some bulbs, just let me know. Since we're both in the EU, VAT would be paid upon purchase of the bulbs here, and the only additional costs will be the cost of shipping the parcel over to you. There should be no taxes levied since it's an intra-EU shipment.