You have posed questions that will bring endless opinions in response. All of us whom have become involved with large format have probably made good and not so good choices and decisions regarding a camera, lens, film, meter and tripod. I know I have learned over many, many years and am still learning. It never ends. In my opinion, choosing a first LF camera really and truly comes down to two things, what appeals to your sensibilities and what is affordable. I started with a Calumet monorail in college, it used a variety of lenses.. everything from a Zeiss barrel lens in a Packard shutter to a state of the art 150mm Schneider of the day and a couple other lenses as well. I developed my first sheets of Tri-X 4x5 in trays in the school B/W lab. I made my first prints on an old Simmon Omega 4x5 enlarger. It all went well with a few unavoidable screw ups at times but this is how you learn. That hands on method teaches you a lot about equipment and technique that no one can explain to you and that no book alone can teach you. It is totally about hands on learning. Over time your own experiences will dictate what you like, dislike and/or need. In the beginning, keep things simple and low cost. That does not mean you should buy junk. You will need some basics like a solid camera, a decent respectable lens/shutter combo, a solid tripod, sound film holders, a very reliable meter and accessories. The same applies to your lab equipment. There is a lot of choice available to you on the used market at superb price points that can easily meet these needs. Before you plunk down a red cent on a purchase I suggest you rent or borrow a large format outfit and just experiment, get a feeling for things. Learn something, practice it, and repeat that process. Then you will know what direction to pursue about the type of equipment to pursue. After that you can start narrowing things down to brands and models that will fit your budget.
Others mentioned workshops and I think that is a good idea as long as a instructor does not push his or her personal views onto a student. Too often I have seen that happen. It's about presenting information only. Shooting with others may or may not be okay because you can easily pick up bad habits and technique as well as good. What you should focus on is building a solid understanding of the fundamentals. Then the rest will follow as you become more confident and experienced. Check local schools for introductory classes. Go to the library and read as many LF books as you can find, you will learn some things from them. Someone mentioned a Crown Graphic and I think that is a choice but not necessarily the right one. In my opinion, you would learn the most with a monorail rather than a press camera type. You need to learn and understand the relationship of the various movements with a LF camera and a monorail is the only tool that allows you to learn that fully. I have several types of LF cameras and the one I would recommend to a beginner is without a doubt the monorail because they provide maximum capabilities at the best price point (bang for the buck). I would supplement the camera with a copy of Stroebel's View Camera book. Armed with those two items and a decent standard lens with a solid tripod and reputable incident/reflective meter along with a 18% gray card and you are good to go head first into your experiment. I hope you truly enjoy the experience, there is absolutely nothing in photography that can provide such a deep personal experience and ultimate satisfaction in image making than LF work. Enjoy and best of luck.