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Weird OfferUp interaction wife posted her husband's production gear super cheap and he low-key freaked out. How do you tell if someone's sentimental

JetFalcon

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So I had a pretty odd OfferUp experience and I’m wondering if anyone else has been in this situation.

A woman posted her husband’s old production gear — including legit Hardigg/Pelican-style road/flight cases — for $25 each.
Yes. Twenty-five dollars.
The kind of cases that normally sell used for $300–$500.

Before that, I bought 9 official GoPro suction mounts (4 brand new, 5 used) for $80 total. These are around $40 each normally, so definitely a crazy-good deal.

Here’s what happened:

The husband (the actual owner of the gear) comes out. He runs a small production company that does ESPN stuff, corporate videos, insurance commercials with no celebrities, etc. Solid work, just not glamorous Hollywood projects.

I pulled up on a Segway and brought the first bag I had at home, which happened to be a pink Hello Kitty duffel. I didn’t explain it — I was rushing. He looks at it and says:

“You’re losing your man card.”
At the time I shrugged it off, but afterward it felt like a frustrated dig more than a joke.

When I later asked about the $25 production cases, he suddenly shut down and said I was “too particular,” and refused to sell anything else.

My theory:

  • His wife posted everything without fully looping him in.
  • She priced everything at “please get this crap out of my garage” levels.
  • He probably wasn’t emotionally ready to part with gear he used for years.
  • The GoPro deal may have made him realize stuff was underpriced.
  • Production cases hold weird sentimental value for a lot of us.
  • He didn’t want to admit any of that, so “too particular” was the exit line.
The wife was totally fine with the sale — the husband clearly wasn’t.

Here’s my question for people who’ve worked in production or sold gear:

How do you tell if the seller won’t part with the gear because they’re sentimental…

vs

…if they actually just dislike you or think you don’t “deserve” the deal?

Has anyone run into this “spouse posts the gear, actual owner freaks out” situation before?

 

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One of the great quandaries of the universe. Who knows the owner's mental attitudes at any moment in time.
 

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You have all heard of the estranged wife throwing her husbands clothes out of the bedroom window in a fit of temper, this could be a different slant on the marital issue and make a bit of money as well.
 

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Kinda sounds like the wife who sells her husband's Ferrari for about $0.01 on the dollar, in spite, in connection with a divorce.
 

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Kinda sounds like the wife who sells her husband's Ferrari for about $0.01 on the dollar, in spite, in connection with a divorce.

Divorces look better the further back they are in the rear view mirror.
 

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I've run into sentimentality a few times at estate sales, but nothing like this.