Agreed. Those kit lenses are great for walking around a city in the daylight or landscape photography with a tripod. Basically any situation where you don't need a shallow depth of field, but do need a versatile and portable zoom lens. It's probably my most used lens on my DLSR. But with portrait photography, shallow depth of field can really help separate the subject from the background. It's not super important if you work in a studio against a flat background, but for just about anything else, it's a nice feature to have available to you. Those kit lenses are mediocre at best for portraits, in my experience. A good photographer can make them work, but that doesn't mean it's ideal.
I find 50mm to be a bit too short for portraits on APS-C sensors and 85mm to be a bit too long. 70mm seems to be about right to me, however that's not a common focal length. In any case, if you want a good 85mm for portraits, I'd suggest the Samyang 85mm 1.4 prime if you can stand a manual focus/manual exposure lens. In my opinion, it's one of the best 85mm lenses out there, on par with lenses that cost 4x as much (at least as far as image quality goes). Obviously, since it's manual everything, it's not the easiest to use. It's great for studio situations, though, but not so great for following your kids around at the park.