You can easily nail all this down with a couple simple tests.
Splurge on my Film Test Kit, that will let you test to get the right ISO for your film, developer, and camera, the right development time for your negatives with the developer that you choose, and has tips for how to expose negatives in the field to make sure you get the best information on the negative. My way matches the materials to each other, so you're getting the most from film, developer, and paper.
No densitomer required, and reusable forever. The tests will take about a day, with most of that time waiting for negatives to dry.
And, for 35mm you might want to do the development time test using grade 3 paper. Its higher contrast will let you develop Tri-X for less time, and therefore produce less grain. I use grade 2 for 4x5 and larger, grade 3 for 35. Using grade 3 may affect your film speed a hair, but not much. Do another film speed test on the next roll of pictures you make, just to be sure. You'll understand when you see the instructions.
Good luck!
Bruce Barlow
www.circleofthesunproductions.com