The way a waist level magnifier usually works is that the magnifying lens has about the same focal length as the distance from the magnifying lens to focusing screen. If the focal length is exactly the same as the distance, then it produces a virtual image at infinity that your eyes can focus on, if your distance vision is ok. If the focal length is slightly longer or shorter than the distance to the screen, the virtual image is closer to or "further than" infinity. If your eyes are reasonably flexible, they can adjust to different magnifiers, but if not, then not. Sensitivity to different magnifiers may have to do with whatever is going on with your distance vision (not your close vision).
For example, my close vision is no longer good so I need glasses to see a WLF focusing screen without the magnifier, but my distance vision is ok, and with the magnifier, I don't need glasses.
The magnifying lens in a typical TLR is probably about 2-2.5" (5-6cm) focal length, about equal to a 4x-5x magnifying glass. It's much shorter than a typical pair of reading glasses (+3 diopter reading glasses have a focal length 33cm). I would experiment with cheap loupes or magnifying glasses in about the 3x-5x range. When you find one that works and is the right diameter, you could remove the lens and build it into your WLF.