Here I am on my toning soapbox again....
Anyway, there are a couple of issues here to discuss. First, I can see no advantage whatsoever to having an wash-aid (HCA) bath before toning. A wash aid's purpose is to help the prints wash faster, not tone better (in fact, as the OP observes, it can possibly affect toning). Since selenium toner solutions have fixer in them, along with other chemicals, the benefit of using HCA is likely negated somewhat by toning afterwards. Use the HCA just before the wash, as it was intended.
Also there is the question of mixing HCA with the toner. This practice was advocated by Adams, White and others, but has no practical benefit either. And, if you are judging the life expectancy of your toner solution by the life expectancy of the HCA mixed into it, you are likely tossing a lot of still active toner, which is wasteful and environmentally unsound (even municipal sewer systems don't deal well with heavy metals and they just end up in the sludge, making it toxic to a degree).
It may be that the wash-aid before or during toning does not affect its performance, but given the environmental concerns, I think best practice would be to use the toner to exhaustion before discarding (or replenish it) and use a separate wash-aid step. In the "old" days, people were simply not as environmentally aware.
FWIW, my work flow is to double fix, and transfer the print fro the neutral-pH second fixing bath directly into the toner, after about a 30-second drain. This does carry a bit of fixer into the toner, which may reduce it's capacity marginally. I've never experienced any problems doing this (nor did Adams or White) except when the prints were not adequately fixed, in which case staining results (actually a good check on whether the prints are adequately fixed). After toning the prints receive a 10-minute bath in a wash-aid (I mix my own) and then go to the wash. My toning solutions get replenished when the toning times get too long by adding a bit of stock solution. The solution is stored and filtered before using it again. I have a couple of gallons of toner (strong and weak), which have been going like this for way more than 5 years. No problems and all the prints pass residual silver and hypo tests with flying colors and I never have to discard toner.
Best,
Doremus