I've never used Xtol at all, so can't help you there.
At the suggestion of Robert Vonk (fotohuis) I tried D74/Rollei RHS-DC, and that worked quite nicely, taming both grain and contrast, but I just didn't want to end up carrying on buying a developer for just one film, and the results while good, were not quite what I wanted.
So I tried Rodinal, and my best results have been exposing at EI 200 and then doing a semi-stand development at 1:100 with single gentle agitations at 20, 40 & 60 mins.
I know stand development causes a few curled lips here at APUG, but in this case it worked rather beautifully.
Here is an example - it is a scan of the negative, but I happen to have printed this one as well and the scan is very close to the print.
20130331-1-2 by
_loupe, on Flickr