The answer depends on you.
What working distance do you prefer to use for what types of portrait? What types of portraits are you planning - head shots, full length portraits, head and shoulders, sitting portraits?
Choose the working distance and preferred crop, and that will determine the focal length that fills the frame.
Perspective has nothing to do with depth of field - nothing to do with whether the ears and nose are in focus when the eyes are. Perspective is determined by working distance - not lens choice - and depth of field is determined by effective magnification and aperture choice.
I like working with an 85mm lens for 135 film - rarely tight head and shoulders, more commonly something with more space around. In the world of 6x4.5, that is probably closest to 125mm, but the different aspect ratios complicate the question.
FWIW, in 6x4.5 (Mamiya) my longer lenses are 110mm and 210mm. My "standard" lens is probably the 55mm, but I do have an 80mm macro.
This (self portrait) was shot with the 110mm (IIRC):