Evan, very sad story. I'm sorry that such an awful thing happened.
I was pouring Methanol from a 4 L bottle into a flask when a spark ignited it and a flame about 5 feet long shot out of the bottle with a roar. Then it went out. I was lucky!
BTW, heavy angora sweaters and similar fuzzy things are banned at Cape Canaveral, as they tend to adsorb oxygen. During fueling with LOX, a sweater can become saturated with excess oxygen. A person left a pad to go for a smoke and when he lit up, he literally exploded. That was in the very early days, but they lectured us on that event and told us sweaters were among prohibited items.
So, accidents happen, and I always try to be safe. You should see my lab coat and my sweat shirts. Very holy artifacts! I show them in the DVD.
PE