Hi, looks like he forgot to say that magnification is the ratio of the two lens distances.
Something I found useful 20-some years back were a couple of short optical summaries posted on a particular web site I frequented. They seem to have disappeared from there but can still be found here:
https://graflex.org/lenses/lens-faq.html
https://www.graflex.org/lenses/photographic-lenses-tutorial.html
Your specific questions are covered in the faq, see Q4 and Q5.
I was gonna explain how to (approximately) deal with the issue of the lens' nodal points, but on a quick review of the faq I see that this is also covered: first paragraph of the "Technical notes." At least for the front nodal point. He doesn't seem to mention it, but for the rear nodal point you can generally turn the lens backwards and repeat the procedure. Some lenses may not be able to form such an image when reversed (it can be internal to the lens), but it will generally work for enlarging lenses.