The thin rim filter requirement only applies to 49mm ones where you also have some sort of filter on the viewing lens, and/or use a Mamiya slip-on lens hood. If those two constraints are not applicable, most 49 screw-in type will work. You may need a suitable screw-in hood too.
With 46mm thread lenses you might be better off using a 46-49mm stepping ring, as 49mm filters of less used types are easier to locate than 46mm. And 40.5mm for the older lenses can be harder still.
Years ago there was a design for a device that mounted a Cokin filter holder over the viewing lens, and then allowed it to be slid the 50mm needed to cover the taking lens. Personally, I have never needed graduated or polarizing filters enough to go that route.
There are tricks for using polarizing filters with non-single-lens reflex cameras, not just TLRs. Just a matter of motivation