John, I'm sorry for the stress. You're in a difficult situation. I didn't always see eye-to-eye with my parents growing up (though they are wonderful people). There's a normal tension between parents and children. I was determined to become independent as soon as I could, and, honestly, that made all the difference.
I'm now a mother, and I can see both sides. If you are old enough to have all that equipment, but not fully employed, and not out on your own, but living with your parents, then you are in some ways asking your parents to subsidize your lifestyle. That can breed resentment. Then your dad feels entitled to comment on your lifestyle. You don't want him judging your choices. But he doesn't want to support his adult son engage in what he considers frivolous things. It could be film, it could be video games, it could be concerts, it could be anything. The point is, he's subsidizing it, in his mind.
Also, reading between the lines, it seems like not only you, but your sister and her 2-year-old are living in the family home. That could create a lot of stress for your dad.
Seriously, the root of all this isn't the film photography. It's that you are underemployed and living with your parents. I'm guessing that he isn't comfortable with that situation, and he doesn't want you to become comfortable with it. So, if I were you, I'd figure out a plan to become fully independent, with an apartment, a job, a career path, and school if appropriate. You can still be close to your family not living under the same roof. Really, it probably will improve your relationship.
-Laura
hmm...I get the feeling that even if you sold every scrap of you film kit, your father would still find something to bitch at you about.
the obvious solution is for you to move out. if you're not willing to do that, then put your film kit away for a while...or sell the digital junk and use the proceeds to buy film!
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