Markk9, you are shooting A church at night, or IN a church at night? How far from her will you be? Stage lighting or normal auditorium? Will you be flashing? Your question is confusing and lacks lots of details.
As to lens, I would go with the 100mm F2. I assume you'll be in the audience. IS is not going to freeze her movements, only yours! I find it strange that any poster would suggest IS..wow! For people, even!
If outside, here is what I'd do:
1. EOS-3 body in manual, ISO 400, F8 if you want the background sharp, F4 or faster if you want just your daughter sharp.
2. Shutter speed 1/20s, or 1/15s depending on how bright you want the background. If you want the background to be brighter use a slower speed, dimmer a faster. How bright will the outside lights be? Use the camera's meter to help you determine shutter speed. 1/20s or slower shutter will often not often cause hand held or subject blur because the flash will freeze the movements.
3. Frame the shot and manually pick and choose the appropriate focus point, and have no though to reframing before shutter release.
4. Put flash in full auto so that it will be controlled by the camera's E-TTL logic.
5. Frame the shot, DO NOT RECOMPOSE, then release the shutter.
Now if your shoot is INSIDE the church, and I assume the daughter will be on a stage or something, then use the same set up, however depending upon the brightness of the stage, you will need to use a faster or slower shutter.
Now if you're shooting inside and with no flash, then you better bring ISO 800 or 1600 ISO film, depending upon how much depth-of-field you require.