Mike, I'm not exactly sure how you would use a "calibrated" negative. But two possibilities come to mind.
First, to check your densitometer's accuracy, you can get some Kodak 3" ND gels (I hope they still make them). See if the density reading you get matches the nominal density of the gel you are reading.
Second possibility is to do an old-fashioned "Nine Negative Test". Ever hear of one of these? It will challenge your bookkeeping skills more than your photographic ones.
Set up a "standard" target, such as the head and shoulders of your wife, holding a gray card under her chin, with a new white bath towel draped over one shoulder and a black towel over the other. This gives you skin, middle gray, textured black and textured white, all in one shot. Pose her outdoors in sunlight under a clear sky.
Shoot three sheets at normal manufacturer's ISO, three sheets at perhaps a half or two-thirds over-exposed, and another three sheets the same amount under exposed.
Then develop one sheet from each exposure group according to the developer instructions. Another group of three perhaps forty percent under (by time) and the last three forty percent longer.
With great patience and care, make the very best print you can from each of the nine negatives with your enlarger, favorite paper (grade 2 only) and developer. No heroic measures like excessive burning/dodging, Selectol Soft developer, bleaching, etc.
Then lay out the nine prints and study them. The one you like best represents your personal exposure/development for that film on a nice, sunny day.
Once you have these figures, you can then do a typical zone system exposure test using a gray card as your target, with the ISO speed and development time which you chose from the Nine Negative Test. Plot the densities obtained from these exposures to get your perfect curve which prints best on your equipment.
When testing future films and developers, you need only shoot a few frames of a gray card and see if the zone densities fall on your perfect curve.