Mats -- There are a few ways to deal with the underexposed negs. Start by stopping the lens way down to avoid overexposing the paper, adding a neutral density filter will help, I switch to graded paper and use a vc filter as a nd filter to pull up a decent photo. Try preflashing or postflashing the paper to lay down a little base fog, just to the point of almost being visable.
As with anything, experiment and take notes, and add that to your bag of tricks. The alternative is to give up and toss the negs (not an alternative), but the challenge is too great to do that. Cut some 8x10 paper down to 4x5 and experiment, its really cheap that way, when you get it figured out, move back up to whatever size you want.
cheers