Cheryl Jacobs said:
I'm getting married on June 18th, and guess what will be on the tables. Yup, disposable cameras. Is it because I don't understand the value of professional wedding photography? Of course not. It's because it's fun as hell to see what whacked out s*** the guests shoot when nobody's watching.
I've shot weddings before, and yes, I absolutely shot them my way. Available light, Tri-X pushed as needed, Delta 3200, no flash even in candlelit reception halls. I would rather put my eye out with a fork than do grip-and-grins of people sitting at tables. The last wedding I did, I got a three-hour break because I (finally) had a wedding coordinator who understand that it is of NO value to take pictures of people chewing their food. People absolutely will hire photogs who know their stuff and have a strong and absolutely established style, with the understanding that the photog will shoot things entirely his/her way. It just requires a good client/photog match and great communications skills.
Personally, I've hired a B&W film photog who primarily does children's portraiture and has never shot a wedding; I didn't want any standard wedding photography, so it made sense to hire someone whose style I love, skills I trust, and who won't fall back on typical wedding shots.
Just my two cents' worth.
-- CJ
Cheryl:
1) Congratulation on your coming wedding;
2) Be sure to have fun! My wife and I and our friends and relatives (mostly) did, and it will always be a dear and treasured memory, and it made for great photographs too;
3) Your two cents, when it comes to photography,are certainly worth more than two cents! (probably in other areas too);
4) I think that if you have the "good client/photog match and great communications skills" you refer to, and a photographer who is happy moving from style to style, it doesn't matter so much if the clients want something traditional, or something not so unusual. Weddings are a celebration, and even mundane photography of a celebration can communicate joy, and be a wonderful record of a special moment in life;
5) With that in mind, I am sure that anyone who has been blessed with having your photographs of their wedding, probably has something extra, that trancends the recording of an event;
6) IMHO grip and grins often bring rise to smiles and chuckles;
7) I agree, one cannot take photographs of people while they are eating. One can, however, often catch people smiling, laughing, interacting and being themselves between bites!
8) All the best!
Matt