After reading this thread, I can only conclude you have all been the victims of a massive exercise in Trolling. Well Done, Helge.
Personally, I learned a very long time ago that you have three knobs when taking photographs, one of which is broken if you're using film. Aperture + shutter = ISO (sorta-- well, not really). You want to control depth-of-field? Alter the aperture. You want to control motion? Set the shutter speed. Is that not enough light? Raise the ISO. Or change film.
Bokeh, which can mean "blur", "haze" or "a bit thick", is a property of a huge number of factors, from lens design, iris design, aperture, sensor/film size, focal length-- there is no dial on any of my cameras for "bokeh". There
is a slider on my cell phone, but I try to pretend it isn't there.
While some lenses are much sharper stopped down, that doesn't mean a 50mm f/1.2 or f/1.4 lens from the 70's won't work just fine wide open-- so the idea I saw that there are only 3 "usable" stops struck me as a bit odd. Then again, none of my large format lenses go wider than f/5.6, and I shoot f/11 or less when possible with them.
I primarily shoot landscape or macro-- to me, depth of field is important. If I shot action, I would worry about shutter speed. I suspect most people, even when shooting manual, have a "priority" in choosing their aperture and shutter speed-- And again, there are enough variables, that claiming people simply whack the aperture as far open as it will go for bokeh, is about as good as claiming that the only type of camera anyone needs is on their smartphone.