I bought one of the Micro Tools filter ring vises for this exact purpose.
There is a lot of metal in the filter ring of an 80mm Planar. I found that bending back it would take serious force. More than I was willing to attempt. I managed to improve the situation on mine, but I didn't get all the distortion out. And since then I've not tried fully mounting a Hasselblad filter. Off brand stuff, like my threaded adaptor work fine though.
One problem you face in trying to "un-bend" something like this is that the area of the bend is work hardened, and therefore slightly less likely to bend than the metal around it. Getting just the right force, in just the right place isn't easy.
One "solution" might be to get an ugly grade filter from KEH, knock the glass out of it. Next modify the filter in whatever way is required to get it onto the lens and leave it there.