David said:
I was running the fill light about 2 stops less than the main thinking that less would be too flat.
That's your problem. A lighting ratio of 1:4 is very strong--what you might use, say, if you wanted half of someone's face to be lit normally and half almost in silhouette. For portraits and figure studies, a range of 1:2 or 1:3 would be much more common. I'd fix this before changing your development or exposure time.
For studio portraiture with artificial lighting, unless you are after a special effect, you should always be processing your film for normal contrast and controlling contrast with the light. I don't usually spot meter in this situation, but there are spotmeters, like the Minolta Spotmeter F, that can do flash.
J&C 400 looks fine with strobes, and it gets you more speed, if you want a smaller aperture.
I like short DOF myself.
There are a few tricks to keeping the subject in focus. The easiest is to tie a string to the tripod and put a knot where it meets the subjects nose. Have them hold the string to their nose while you focus on their eyes, then you can insert the filmholder, pull the darkslide, and check the focus with the string before making the exposure. I just shot some very close portraits on 8x10" (magnification about 1:1) with a 360/4.5 Heliar wide open using window light. Didn't use the string for the first two shots--both out of focus. Realized I needed the string, and the next four were all right on.
Another method I've used is to pay very close attention to the nose shadow when focusing the shot seeing where it ends on the subjects lip, and then check it again before making the exposure. If the subject moves, the shadow will change, and if you remember where it is, you can adjust the subject's head slightly to get it back, and the subject will usually be in focus.