I haven't used the Novoflex adapters, so I can't advise on the problem other than to say your surmises appear to be correct on the screw mount adapter. As you likely know, there's a 1mm greater film-to-flange distance designed into the M mount to allow screw mount LTM adapters to function, so the R lens to LTM adapter should be 1mm larger than the R lens to M mount adapter.
Steve Gandy at cameraquest.com used to sell an R lens to M body adapter that had a "focusing" ring/scale to drive the RF mechanism in the M body. You could "focus" the ring, take your distance reading from that adapter scale, and translate the reading to the R lens. However these are no longer available new, and I suspect rare used.
Lee