I have the 250 5.6 and really like it, the results are amazing. I can't find my instructions, but the copy I had was not that helpful. The reason you stop down to focus and then open back up to your desired f stop to expose is that the image is not as sharp as you will most likely need at, say 5.6, to be able to focus accurately. I have to stop down to at least f8, sometimes more to be sure I am getting the eyes in a portrait, for example, in focus, then I open back up to the f stop I want. If you don't focus accurately, you won't be able to obtain some of the effects possible with this lens. If you stop down to the point that the lens apperture is smaller than the large opening in the disc, and expose at that f stop, you will not get a soft focus effect or the soft focus effect will be minimal. The lens can be used without the discs, but the effect is different. When the discs are used the bright areas bleed into the darker areas and, skin tones, for example, become incredibly smooth and even. The yellow disc gives a more diffused effect than the red disc. There are a number of effects that can be achieved, but you will probably find one that you like the best, however, you will have to spend some time and film experimenting in order to find out which you like the best. Stopped down this lens appears to my eye to be as sharp as any comparable focal length lens, but the coverage is not as great as some lenses in this focal length.
Good luck