When I switched to using Exactol Lux from DiXactol about 3 1/2 years ago, I noticed how different the negs looked, as you describe, much thinner to the naked eye. But the information was all there.
I phoned Barry Thornton who was extremely helpful, as was his way. He said that this was normal and even sent me a 6x6 negative which he had processed. This looked just like mine achieved by following the instructions.
I was using a water bath stop and his Archevix alkaline fixer for which he said that there was no need to re-dunk the film in the spent developer for stain intensification.
There has been a lot written about the need for this re-immersion in the spent developer process in tanning and staining developers and quite what it achieves other than an overall staining of the negative which isn't beneficial. There are some superb people on this site with an excellent knowledge of sensitometry such as Sandy King, who could make a more informed post about whether you need to do this or not.
I haven't used Exactol nor DiXactol since my stocks ran out after Barry died. Moving to PMK and very recently Pyrocat HD they all produce good, but different negatives and that is part of the joy and frustrations of this medium!
Good luck.