Like many others, I have also gone through tests and testing periods, and have experienced your frustration. Precision has its place, but only to a certain extent. Subjectivity then takes over. To paraphrase an instructor in a workshop I attended years ago: "We are not in the business of replicating density wedges day in and day out. If we were to do that, we would be working in one of Kodak's test labs, and so we can't be where we want to be taking pictures."
Keep in mind that a "zone" is just that - a zone. It contains a range of values that can be quantified, but in the end, the quantities within that zone are perceptually barely different from each other. Think of Zone 8 as eventually graduating into Zone 9. For all practical purposes, a middle Zone 8 should work.
My version of a real-world test of selecting my "correct" developing time is to make a straight print out of a negative taken of a real-world subject, say a building in sunlight. If it basically prints itself, and if after I tape the print on the wall and the print still "looks correct" after looking at it for a few days, I settle for the particular development time that produced that print. If the highlights look a bit dim, I adjust accordingly. If the highlights look a bit too washed out, I adjust similarly.
From my own experience in running tests (I do have these obsessive periods that may qualify as a disease of sorts that afflict some of us): there are far more variables to easily contend with and to control with precision. On the wet side alone are the following: freshness of chemistry, quality of water, temperature drift, replicability of agitation methods, etc. Then there are the variables in the taking side: shutter accuracy, agreement between different shutters, metering technique, etc.
I think the goal in testing is to familiarize ourselves enough with how our materials behave, but not to let the materials dominate our ways of working. Just my two cents.