OP obviously enjoys using caffenol. Moreover, OP is not asking whether or not there is a finer-grain developer out there—for all we know, he has already done all the experiments he needs with Xtol, D-76, Rodinal, etc.—but is asking why, scientifically speaking, he's getting larger grain with a different dilution.
OP can correct me if I'm misreading him, but I find it curious that so many are telling him to use a different developer to get finer grain when that doesn't seem to be what he's enquiring about.