Children at sports events

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Kids at sports


Would were it that simple. Around where I live the tap on the shoulder is followed by the swift kick in the grillocks. Sadly the knuckle draggers hit first and ask questions later.
 

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The real question, already stated or hinted at is: What's changed in terms of actual risks, say, in the last 10-20 yrs max that justifies our change of behaviour and attitude towards the threat?

Are there more paedophiles out there now? If so how has this come about? Have we just simply spawned them and if so how? It's difficult to believe that if X% of any generation has such tendencies then in the space of one generation it is now X+ % such that the threat has grown massively.

Certainly we are now tuned into the signs of increased paedophilia but is this a real or largely imaginary increase?

If we are told something often enough or fed "information" enough, we come to believe it and act accordingly.

I find it worrying how few years it takes to change people's perception through "information" and more chillingly to make people forget that it was not always so, even within their own recent memory which has been effectively erased.

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No, you're not the only one at all. Certainly the fear (warranted or not) that many parents have has resulted in the concept of "play dates" and structured recreation.

Other contributory factors include the generally structured lifestyles that many families (particularly the "upwardly mobile") have created wherein everyone, parent and child, has a "schedule of events" that has to be organized. Also, newer suburban developments tend to create isolated environments with little public space. Ever notice how few "modern suburbs" have sidewalks? Think of it, how many kids nowadays bicycle to school?

One poster queried whether there has been an increase in pedophilia or just greater awareness. Does it matter? I'd hazard to guess it's just greater awareness but that doesn't change the situation from what it's become.

And it cuts both ways. Just as we've seen instances where pedophiles take advantage of new "venues" such as the Web - so we have seen victims do the same. Look how quickly the world became aware of the tragedy of the 4 y.o. British girl who "disappeared" while on on holiday with her parents in Portugal. Within a few days - a web site was set up, celebrities pledged their "help" etc.

Face it folks, this isn't the 20th century anymore. The days of blocks full of baby boomers playing on the front lawns and backyards etc. are gone.
 

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The simple solution is to send them to a summer camp where they spend the whole time outside.
 

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Am I the only one who sees a correlation between the extreme risk aversion encouraged by popular media and the decline of unstructured play?

No, you are not the only one. The RSA Journal had a couple of articles on it, two or three issues back, and recently the BBC has been getting more interested: for example, talking to young mothers outside the gates of a primary school about their own childhood (walked to school . . . had to be home before dark when I went out playing . . . building dens in the woods) and the fact that they regarded it as 'irresponsible' to let their own children do the same thing. That was in Birchington in Kent -- I noticed because I used to live there -- and I also know that nearby, maybe 10-15 miles away, there is (or was, a couple of years back) an old cinema converted into a prison for kids: sorry, a 'safe play area' where their parent pay to have them locked up...

One other thought on this thread is that at school sports days and football matches, it would be a bit odd if strangers turned up, but equally, on public sports grounds, or in the street, it is a a bit odd to ban them.

Cheers,

Roger
 

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The simple solution is to send them to a summer camp where they spend the whole time outside.
Fortunately summer camps are little known outside the United States. I'd have hated them. When I was a boy, I wanted to be the one who decided what to do and when, rather than being bossed about by adults the whole time in an essentially institutional setting.

I believe, too, that summer camps emphasise the 'team spirit', an attitude which I despise when it is whipped up for its own sake: it creates a 'them versus us' mentality which is the root of at least as many ills as it purports to cre. I've always liked Michael Winner's definition of 'teamwork', which is 'a lot of people doing what I tell them'. I am more than willing to work with others to some useful end, even in a subordinate capacity, but I refuse to join a group of others in doing something pointless such as chasing a ball around. This is why I fenced at school, instead of playing rugger or cricket.

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Absolutely. All the things that get my skin crawling

  • Summer Camps
  • Timetabled Play
  • Play dates
  • 'Team Building' and the notion that everyone has to be a 'Team Player'.
  • Fastidious hygeine and widespread hypochondria
  • Lack of school field trips
  • Governments that tell us what is good for us (and imposes it without asking)
  • Social services, councils and schools that do the same

I might be only 31 but I really am looking to resist where I can and bury my head in the sand where I cannot. No wonder so many children (and parents) now go to shrinks. People are losing their ability to function independently, make decisions (and accept that THEY have to accept the possible negative consequences), take responsibility, accept and generally cope with the adversity life throws at them.

Its one thing I very much respect about Continental Europeans; they GET ON WITH IT.

Heaven help the west, really. I work in the east and the contrast in vigor is startling. When are sitting in our living rooms endlessly debating whether it was right for C4 to show a shot of the car Diana died in (despite the fact that pictures of car wrecks and pile ups on the motorway involving normal people feature in the daily papers) we know that we have serious problems. To me, our namby pambying is akin to Nero playing the violin when.....
 

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The real question, already stated or hinted at is: What's changed in terms of actual risks, say, in the last 10-20 yrs max that justifies our change of behaviour and attitude towards the threat?

At least over here, that sort of crime has been declining for many years, and it still is. Statistically, btw, most victims are abused by family members or close friends of the family. What do we make of that? Wouldn't our children be safer far away from home then, playing in the woods?

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The real question, already stated or hinted at is: What's changed in terms of actual risks, say, in the last 10-20 yrs max that justifies our change of behaviour and attitude towards the threat?

The change is that over this period we have developed a life style in which we are more isolated from our fellow human beings and so lose a sense of reality, which is then replaced by the impression we gain from TV shows which recycle police surveillance footage, recount the very worst cases of recent years, etc. Add in the cult of political correctness, which among other things seems to suggest that ANY contact between adult males and children to whom they are not related indicates criminal intent, and you're all set for mass hysteria!
 

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It's interesting and simply coincidental, but an article just this past Tuesday in the NY Times confirms that this is the situation here too. Randomized child abuse crimes are down - but there has been a much greater focus now on crimes committed by family, friends and "trusted adults" such as teachers, priests etc.

Again, it's impossible to determine if there is a real increase in such crimes - or just more widespread reporting thereof. But, again, does it matter? Most people are going to behave in accordance with their perceptions - despite how many statistics you show them.
 

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I was mostly kidding.
 

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but there has been a much greater focus now on crimes committed by family, friends and "trusted adults" such as teachers, priests etc.

This isn't news to any of us who work in the social services. The actual incidence of strangers abusing children randomly has always been very low. Most people believe otherwise, a fact which usually results in massive denial on the part of other family members when a child discloses abuse.
 

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Oh come on, the Madeleine McCann incident proves otherwise......(sarcasm)

I used to roam widely on my bike, playing wih friends in the woods, gravel pit, railway lines....maybe thats why I love the outdoors to the point of being unabl to contemplate a conventional office job. Damn. If only my parents had kept me locked up I might have done something useful with my life

Roger, you are old school. Judgement, acceptible risk, learning by your mistakes etc are all out of date concepts. I am sorry, but you have been outmoded by far more 'intelligent' concepts cooked up in university departments and imposed with puritanical zeal by people who know far better . I remember ditching a psychology subsidiary at university because the (social psychology) lecturer was talking claptrap. For each concept that needed explaining there was a 'desired outcome' .....and then ridiculous show of logic aerobatics required to get from 'eroneous common perception' to 'enlightened politically correct verdict'. If had been older at the time I would have laughed out loud. I took on the subsid hoping for enlightenment and thoroughly enjoyed the clinical and other aspects. Some areas were however, shall we say, somewhat less objective. I am sure it would have been impressively scientific and 'proven' to someone doing a performing arts degree but for someone studying a science some of it was as objective as Gen Melchitt at Captain Blackadder's 'Speckled Jim' trial. Sadly this same sort of agenda has woven its way somewhat further than university departments.

my word I am a miserable git. Sorry. Maybe I need couselling?
 

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I think a few pictures of the bystanders glaring would be more interesting than pictures of kids splashing water.

Sometime in the early nineties when I was living in the east coast, I was taking pictures at a outdoor community event in a public park. There was a water fountain in the park and a group of kids were playing in the water in spite of a sign that said something along the line of "No wading allowed in fountain." As I was pondering whether it is worth a frame of Kodachome to capture something so cliche, a guy walked passed me with his kids and suggested that I should take a shot. He said he's got a shot of the same situation.

Last year, I was in the street-photography workshop at the conference. A participant suggested to the workshop leader that it maybe a good idea to go over to the park to photograph the kids in the wading pool. The workshop leader declined. He also mentioned that he's staying away from photographing kids on the streets nowadays due to the public perceptions.
 

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The other day I was in a business meeting and someone idly mentioned that you cannot trust any photograph anymore. She noted that with PS one can be placed into or removed from an image such that no photograph can any longer be considered a record of what actually happened.

Sad times indeed.
 

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I am a teacher AND have been involved in the scout movemnt for many years. I think the whole thing is crackers but in this mad compensation obsessed world in which we live where the VERY small minority of pretty repugnant deviants are depicted as commonplace by tabloids who want to boost sales there's always the chance that someone will complain !
Any photography or videography of young people needs permission because of this (it's also an issue with the break up of families - some parents have court orders against them preventing access to their children and a photo can let them know where the child is !) and if you watch TV footage of schoolkids on TV you will NEVER see faces shown.

Not my rules - I can't take the risk of comforting a child by placing a hand on their shoulder without another member of staff being in full view - but that is unfortunately the way of the world.... God I feel better for getting that off my chest (soapbox anyone !)

Cheers CJB
 

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See Posting #50 this thread. This is the same environment that my girlfriend deals with as a elementary school principle on this side of the Pond.

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Not my rules...

Yes they are, really. If you don't fight them (for example by refusing to enforce them) who will? When I was a teacher I several times refused to enforce pointless, stupid, arrogant rules, though the ones about photography didn't exist in those days (30+ years ago).

Cheers,

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The problem is that a teacher or principal could loose their job, their credientals, and be both criminally and civilly liable for not enforcing the laws.

Steve
 

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One gets bullied, the other gets a slap in his face and the third looses his job.

Actually we could end this thread here...
 

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Knowing, just by the thread title, that my blood pressure might rise... I read only postings #1 and 74. I'll make up my own middle and might even get a decent screenplay out of it!
 
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